Please help

To whomever reads this,
My family and I are in need of help. We have run out of ideas and options and were hoping that someone, somewhere could offer advice. The short version of all this is that, I was married for 5 years, together we have had three children ages 7, 4 and 2. He was abusive and cheated a lot so I left him and took the kids to live in a Domestic Violence Shelter here in our home town. Our divorce was finalized on 11/26/2008. Here's the problem. My fiance Michael lives with myself and my three children. Our income together is over the required minimum amount for the children to recieve medical and food from the state. We are at a loss now that they lost those benifits. Once our paychecks come in, it is already gone because of all the bills we have (electric $200, water $60, phones $100, house hold neccessities $150, childrens neccessities $50, Daycare $150 every 2 weeks, Internet $75, money to the state $100, pet food and supplies $100 and credit card $75). You do the math when we bring home only $1400-1800 a month (my hours are NOT regular so one week I could have more hours than the other two weeks combined). I have to pay back $1000 to state because I was recieving TANF (temporary assistance for needy families) during the divorce and the state messed up giving me over the amount I was supposed to, so I have to pay that back. The childsupport hasn't started coming in yet, for what reason I don't know but they have been taking it out of my ex husbands paycheck since September. Now he doesn't have a job therefor childsupport WON'T be coming in. Neither my fiance or I have a license, in order to get one we have to have a legal vehicle, which we cant do that without insurance which we can't do that without having a license. See the dilemma there? In the divorce I lost the house, my ex is putting it up for sale...so on top of all this other stuff we have to move. With the insurance being shut off, my 4 year old is due to have surgery and now we don't even know if the insurance will still be covered for his surgery. There has to be something that we can do for just awhile until we get on our feet. That's all we want is something that will help us til we get in the position of where we need to be and where we want to be. But we have no idea where to look or how to go about it. I am asking for help, not money, just advice. If you have any ideas, suggestions or whatever PLEASE comment, message or email me.

Thank you for your time,
Marilyn